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Sex Myth #15
Bigger is better
Hmm let’s think about this one for a bit shall we?
When we think about ‘bigger’ in the context of sexuality, we often mean penises. Society tells us that bigger penises are better penises, they make you manly and powerful, and great in bed. But is that actually true? Um NO!
For starters penis does NOT equal man and a bigger penis certainly does not make you a better man. Gender is so much more (bigger) than genetalia (eh you see what I did there?) it’s about how you perceive yourself and how you engage with what society defines as ’man’ & ’woman’.
Now, onto size. Penis size is a touchy subject, mostly because there are these (unrealistic) expectations of what is ‘average’ and what is ‘big’. So to get the low down on penises check out Dr. Petra’s AMAZING article here
And lastly, bigger = better sex? Sex is more than your penis! Good sex, nay great sex is NOT dependent on your penis! What is important is that the lines of communication are open between you and your partner(s) and as the saying goes ‘it’s not the size of the wave but the motion of the ocean’
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There is no cure for HIV but “treatment can keep the virus under control and the immune system healthy*”
And we all know the concept of virginity is a myth too, so there you have it two sex myths for the price of one.
…wait the concept of virginity is a myth? Yup, turns out the there is no such thing as a “brittle” membrane (aka hymen) that breaks during sexual intercourse, instead there are “multiple folds of mucous membrane” called a vaginal corona and it “is a permanent part of a woman’s body throughout her life”.**
Okay so the hymen doesn’t exist, but you’re still a virgin if you’ve never had sex right? Well that depends on what you define as ‘sex’, can you only lose your virginity if you have heterosexual vaginal intercourse?
What’s also interesting is how society views ‘virginity’. The term is often used to refer to someone’s purity & innocence, and what’s the opposite of innocence -GUILT. Does that mean that once you lose your ‘virginity’ and your ‘innocence’ you’re guilty? That doesn’t seem fair, sex isn’t dirty or something to be ashamed of.
Check out Jessica Valenti’s book and documentary ‘The Purity Myth’ to find out more!
* HIVAware
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